Quick ways of psychological self-help
Sometimes we are looking for complex ways to solve regular problems. However, there are instant simple ways of self-help, which have been used for centuries for irritation, stress, and frustration.
Hey Google, how do I get out of an annoying situation?
Are you visiting a party, event and something went wrong? You don't have to suffer. Call Uber (do not be greedy), shake hands with a friend, gently hug the hostess, grab a cookie on the track and go home. Straightaway.
Are you annoyed by a group, public? We press the "exit" button.
Do you tolerate an abuser, a boor, a critic and a complete envy of an ill-wisher? Block him/her and unfriend.
You don't need Google to get out of an annoying (emotional) situation. You have to leave. Everything is simple.
Hey Google, how do you deal with tantrums? I'm not asking for myself. For a girlfriend.
Have a drink of water. This is a tried and tested recipe by GPs before they invented online courses.
In the event of a tantrum (sympatho-adrenal crisis), you or your girlfriend, have two ways of self-regulation. A glass of water and 3-5 deep breaths and exhalations.
A glass of water, drunk slowly (necessarily) stops all seizures known to science. The first thing to offer to a person who has been twisted by something terrible is a glass of water. Drinking water slowly starts the natural process of self-rehabilitation of the body.
Hey Google, how do you relieve emotional stress when you're cornered?
Take a break.
You are at the meeting. It's boring and the speech of a hypocritical boss (it happens) infuriates you. The tension is over the top. The context does not allow escaping with Uber and a cookie. But to be distracted by the contemplation of what is available is quite impossible. This is mindfulness. Attention control technique. Speech infuriates and boils your blood, but Lenochkin's manicure does not. How has she had it done?
Hey Google, what other emergency self-help options?
Positive reframing. Oh, this is my favorite trick. Works as a railroad. The truth is short. A quick band-aid on your mental wound is ok, a long-term one is not ok. She worked late, but she didn't have to go to the gym. The vacation was not signed, but I will finally study English. Fired, finally sleep off. Well, you get the idea.
Laughter. Here is the way. Completely destroy everything inflated, serious and pompous in your head. To laugh at, to joke about and vulgarize is an old recipe for human culture. But it applies only to your exaggerated perception of a fact or situation. When there is an elephant in the head from a fly. Here's an elephant you can make fun of.
The same method is recommended for fear of public speaking. Put on magic glasses before the performance, through which everyone looks in the same shorts. You will have laughter inside when you start looking at the shorts. Here the main thing from such self-help is not to forget what they wanted to talk about.
Count to 10. This is the official recommendation from doctors and sports coaches. Slowly and with control inhale and exhale. Count to 10. Imagine magic glasses.
Cry. Talk. Think what could be worse. Especially the neighbor. There are 4 more ways.
And finally. I tear off the way from my soul. You can wash dishes. This is trance hypno zen. Flowing water soothes and relaxes. The main thing is not to break the plates. But, if it suddenly rolls over and you feel that the situation is becoming emotional, you already know what to do - call Uber, grab a cookie and go somewhere. Then deal with everything.